Simply Nerdy Mom: Men Need Pampered, Too: Simple Ways to Show Him You Care

Monday, January 9, 2017

Men Need Pampered, Too: Simple Ways to Show Him You Care


I am a firm believer that men deserved to be pampered, too. Why should women be the only one who gets a spa day or gets waited on when they are sick? My husband works just as hard as I do and I am always finding ways to pamper him every single day, not only to show him I love him and that I care about him, but because it helps refresh him and ease any work stress that he may bring home.




Believe it or not, men aren't much different from women, They want someone to make an effort for them and they enjoy the thought you put into things. These are just a few ways that I pamper my husband.


Massages

This one seems to be a bit of a no brainer, really. Who doesn't like a nice massage? Every night after the kiddos are in bed, I give my husband a back, shoulder, neck, and head massage while he relaxes and plays a little Xbox. It relaxes him, relieves stress, and it's a great way to bring us closer since sometimes we can feel like we don't get enough time together because of work and the kids. He frequently gives me massages, so it's only fitting that I repay him! 


Taking Care of Him While He's Sick

My husband always does what he can to take care of me when I'm sick. He runs to the store for medicine, lets me sleep in, cooks dinner, takes care of the kids, and checks in while he's at work to see how I'm doing and if I need anything. So naturally, when he's sick, I do the exact same thing. A few things I do for my husband while he's sick is make him hot tea and soup, keep him comfortable when he's laying on the couch, distract the kids so he can sleep in, and I even draw him a bath for him to soak in when his muscles ache. 



Bake Him Something

One thing my husband has always loved about me since day one, is that I love to cook and bake and I do it well. So I'm frequently baking my husband sweets or making huge meals. You don't even have to go all out with this. Don't have enough time to bake something from scratch? Grab a cake mix or cookie mix from the store. He'll still appreciate it, especially if you bake him his favorite flavor!



Morning Coffee

My husband gets up pretty early for work everyday, so I try to get up before he does and make him a cup of coffee to go and maybe heat up a homemade cinnamon roll. In addition to doing this on weekdays, I also have woke him up with coffee and breakfast in bed on weekends. Sometimes even the kids get in on the meal which makes it extra special. You could make your man some coffee before he leaves in the morning, or pick up coffee and breakfast and deliver it to him at work. 


Take Him on a Date

Men are usually, although not always, the ones who plan dates. Why not go ahead and plan a surprise date for the two of you. Plan something new that you haven't done yet, that you both may enjoy. It doesn't even have to be outside of the house or cost any money at all. Get creative with it. Plan a picnic, take him to his favorite restaurant,  plan a nice candle lit dinner at home, or anything else you can come up with. It doesn't matter what you do, just so you do it together. He'll appreciate the effort a weight will be lifted off his shoulders because that will be one date that he doesn't have to plan himself. 


Wait on Him a Little Bit

Before you start in with the eye rolls on this one, just hear me out. I'm a little old fashioned. I actually like doing things for my husband that I know he's perfectly capable of doing himself, and I don't do it all the time, but I do it enough that he feels special when I do it. For instance, sometimes when I make dinner, I plate his food for him or butter his bread for him. When he plays his Xbox, I bring him drinks and snacks as he plays. The thing is, he also does the same for me. When I'm working during dinner, sometimes he'll bring me a plate. Or he will grab a drink for me while he's in the kitchen. He's even gotten me a plate of food or drinks at picnics so I don't have to stand in line or get up at all. Once again, it's the little things.


Take an Interest in Things He Likes

Sometimes our men can be into things that we aren't as excited about. Maybe it's a sports team, comic books, hunting, or gaming. For my husband and I we pretty much like all the same things, except maybe he likes a game that I've never played or a comic book I've never read. We all love talking about our favorite things to others who show an interest, so of course, it makes sense that your guy will enjoy you showing some interest in the things he likes. Ask him questions, try to hold conversations, and be genuinely interested in what he's talking about. Not only will you get to know him a little better, but you might find something new you can enjoy together. 


Write Him a Love Letter

We live in the age where no one physically sits down and writes letters anymore. We send private messages, write on each other's Facebook walls, and send texts, snaps, and tweets, but the art of a physical letter has been lost. Why not sit down and write him a good old fashioned love letter? Leave it in his lunch box or on the dash of his car, or if you live apart, send it through the mail! 


Your man will enjoy all the little things you do for him and it will likely bring a stronger bond between the two of you. 

What little things do you like to do, to show your man how much you care? 


3 comments:

  1. I seriously loved your post. I've been married for 20 years and been together for 23. One of my goals this year is to pay closer attention to my marriage and my husband. After being together this long. Sometimes it feels as though your just living together and Co existing. Don't get my wrong, there's nothing wrong, we're happy and love each other. It's just that it's easy to allow life to take over. So my plan is to spill him a little this year. Your post is perfect timing!!

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  2. This is a great post! I like to show him I care by little things. I make sure there is ice in the freezer for his drinks and sometimes I bring him a nice ice cold Pepsi. I try to keep the house clean when I am not working. I don't eat the last piece of ham... lol its his. Just little things and I always say I love you before I go to bed.

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